And I’d like to Thank…

I had a conversation with a friend last night about the blog-o-sphere and how so frequently it feels like successful bloggers like to share “how” they became successful–but those tips never seem to include thank yous or acknowledgments that they didn’t accomplish their greatness alone.

So while I’m still a far cry from “greatness” I wanted to take a few minutes to talk about how important a solid support network really is–even for a part time freelancer, like me.

Personal Support

No one feels ready to tackle the world all the time. Which is why we each need our own personal cheerleaders. Growing up, I was taught I could do anything. I have my parents to thank for that. But today it’s my friends and my amazing Significant Other who remind me of that when I forget.

A personal support network tells you you’re awesome when you think maybe you can’t do this “thing”–whatever it is–that you’re scared of. You should have at least one person who will listen quietly to your fears, so you can get them out in the open. Sometimes they sound rather silly once you’ve voiced them out loud. You should have one person who will call bullshit whenever you start to say “I can’t…” They’re willing to tell you you’re being f***ing ridiculous; sometimes we don’t realize when we’ve let our fears paralyze us. This person helps give us a jump start to get us moving again. And you should have one person who will gently show you can you do it. They will recount times you’ve done it in the past and tell you over and over again how awesome you are, until you start to believe it.

Professional Support

Have you heard about that whole mentor-mentee thing that the kids are into these days? Yeah, it’s really catching on. Well, there’s a reason for that. Having someone you can turn to and ask even your stupidest questions can be an important part of achieving good things. I have several awesome freelance friends who I turn to whenever I have questions or just want to chat about what I’m up against.

But in addition to being a mentee – be a mentor. You’ll be amazed at how much it boosts your ego when someone comes to you with a question … and you know the answer. It makes all that hard work you’ve been doing worth it.

Peer-to-Peer Support

In addition to talking to folks who have been where you are and those who hope to be where you are, you need to talk to those who ARE where you are. It reminds you that you’re not alone. Often you can help each other.

And A Special thanks …

I wouldn’t be where I am — at my day job, in my freelance career or as the publisher of Moxy Magazine if it wasn’t for the folks who have helped me get here. My SO pushed me to go freelance part time when I was considering taking a waitress job for extra income. Three awesome freelance writers–P.S. Jones, Lindsey Donner and Natalia Sylvester–who have shared their experiences and recommendations as I started freelancing and who continue to share information freely. Peers, who are building their own businesses and who I trade ideas, secrets and hopes with–Ty Unglebower, Leslie A. Joy–and who are in turn willing to listen and willing to accept advice.

None of us can do it alone. Who’s helped you get to where you are today?

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